John Ibbitson in the Globe and Mail is trying to be nice when he says "Bars have closed, and bathhouses . . ." He goes on to say that Church Street is nevertheless still important because it's a place to "have a coffee, read a book" among sympathetic friends.
It's all very comforting to imagine that all gay men, lesbians and trans folk are 'making love' with their lifetime committed married 'partners' - or even with someone they met on a 'dating app' - in the wall-to-wall-carpeted privacy of their middle-class homes.
Well I, for one, am not comforted.
For though it's true that bars and bathhouses on Church Street have closed, it's not true the present day purpose of Church Street is only to provide a place for people to have a coffee with friends.
What about Spa Xcess? What about Steamworks (an international chain of bathhouses that still flourishes all over North America and in Toronto?)
Woody's and the Eagle pack 'em in like sardines on weekends. What about the kids lining up to get into Crews and Woody's with their bisexual friends? And what about toilets in the business district downtown? And dark rooms? And what about all the orgies, crystal meth parties and condom-less sex that goes on in rented and private spaces?
So why this lie that we don't need Church Street, except for 'coffee'?
Well, it's become politically correct to suggest that gay men are not having sex anymore outside of committed relationships. It's so retro to think of gay men as sexual outlaws. And gay men love to promote this lie because we like to think of ourselves as respectable, like those nice straight people.
The fact of the matter is that even in the Toronto tolerance bubble kids still go through agonies coming out to their schools and their parents. And no queer couple is going to get away with necking in straight bars on Richmond Street. And if you step just slightly out of the bubble - to Northern Ontario, never mind Utah or Iran - you stand a good chance of being beaten or killed for being openly queer.
It doesn't help to lie about the realities of gay life. The realities of gay life are not going away soon.
Though many wish for homophobia to disappear, wishing doesn't make it so.
Like Peter Pan, I still believe in fairies.
And if you're honest with yourself, so do you.